Dude is a fun way to teach eye contact, which is important because it is a social marker for a wide variety of expressions including trust, respect, interest, and understanding. Eye contact also creates an ineffable human connection which is difficult to quantify or describe, and lack of eye contact makes it difficult to trust someone.
The trick when teaching the reading of facial expression is that while each person expresses happiness, gratitude, anger, and frustration uniquely, there is an almost ineffable element of commonality just below the surface which can be difficult to identify.
Getting outside with your child with Autism or ADHD does good in so many domains that there is almost no way to lose. Besides getting your child away from screen time, and providing a non-threatening way to catch up and socialize, the sensory experience of being in nature can be immensely beneficial.
Has your child been in trouble for a behavior that the teacher interpreted as disengaged but which you knew was a coping strategy or sensory regulation technique? New research validates that doodling increases productivity rather than being a distraction.
Kids Cooperate director Aaron Weintraub discusses the importance of play, and the Social Sensory Cognition Proces on PlayDHD TV.
What would your super power be? If you are a young person, or remember being a young person, you know this is a powerful Rorschach test. For a socially awkward child, exploring this can be therapeutic.
Many people on the Autism Spectrum are challenged by social communication. Much of friendship involves the playful use of language such as metaphors and idioms. The Kids Cooperate social support curriculum includes pragmatic language training though activities designed to scaffold skills such as understanding holistic language communication (body language, words, facial expression, tone of voice), increase the variety of words used, and organize conversational structure.
At Kids Cooperate we are committed to a play based model because the social learning that happens during play lays the foundation for social communication and emotional regulation skills that become important for getting and keeping a job, and maintaining close healthy relationships throughout life.
The best lessons to teach are the ones you've learned yourself. One of my favorite things to do growing up was to pour over my books of The Far Side comics by Gary Larson. A scientist by trade, Larson drew what he knew best. Science, animals, and anxiety related to the pranks his older brother would play on him growing up, and his awareness of the randomness of life and death.
This week at Kids Cooperate we are pleased to welcome music therapist Kimmie Borovicka of Musical Pathways to all groups.
Life can be real good, if you work with what you got...
If you got one leg than shake it,
Work with what you got!
Play is a child's work. It is through imaginative play that children process and integrate the social and cultural information that they experience. The social learning that happens during play lays the foundation for social communication and emotional regulation skills that become important for getting and keeping a job, and maintaining close healthy relationships throughout life.
The imaginative games that children play equip them to read and intuit the feelings of others, laying the groundwork for the development of authentic empathy. For children on the autism spectrum, the ability to take the perspective of another is one of the most important challenges.
Cognitive development progresses through stages of grouping information, or schemas. As new information is encountered, it must be fit into an existing schema or a new schema can be developed. For example, the "cat" schema may include house cats, lions, and tigers, but when your child sees a weasel with catlike paws and whiskers, they must process and integrate that it does not fit into the "cat" category.
April is Autism Awareness Month, so it is worth mentioning that for children on the autism spectrum, imaginative and cooperative play may not come naturally. Adults can scaffold play by including neuro-typical children, interactive manipulatives, a well organized environment, visual supports, and a consistent routine.
An example of how prosocial behavior is supported by cooperative play can be seen in a simple game of "hot and cold". One child must hide an object and then encourage the other child to locate it by encouraging them with "hot"as they get closer to discovering it and "cold" as they get further away. This interaction requires perspective taking (I know something my friend does not), social exchange (I offer verbal prompts which affect my friends movements), and central coherence or situational appropriateness (I can give hints but should not reveal the answer because it would ruin the game).
Children process their experiences through imaginative play. You can support your child's development by engaging them in make believe! Remember to let your child take the lead in setting up the scenario and be flexible about rapidly shifting rules and roles.
Aaron Weintraub, MS runs child-centered social skills groups with a focus on children and teenagers withPervasive Developmental Disorder, Asperger Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and Shyness. Strengths-based approach in a community based setting. Groups available in Tolland, Mansfield, Willimantic, Hartford, Vernon and Coventry Connecticut.